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Online Dating Tips For Men

Friday, September 11th, 2009

It is a very interesting to see how online dating is gaining popularity these days. Women in general are scared of meeting a man she has been chatting with online. With stories that scary things happen women have a right to be very wary. You can never guess the motive of the man who dates online. You may cook an idea that this is a good platform to look for a nice girl for you.

You must not take things for granted and only hope for the best. It is not an easy thing to find out all about the woman but you have no other choice. Irrespective what your motives are, the best approach is to be yourself and leave the superficial air of arrogance and pretense behind if anything beneficial is to come out of this relationship.

Online Dating Tips For Men

Asking for opinions by putting forth leading questions is the best conversational trap to make people open up and reveal inner secrets that they normally would not share or are embarrassed to share. Once you have thrown the line, just be a good listener because she is going to tell you a lot about herself and her views of men in general.

Her opinion on online dating will give you a gold mine of information about her. You must take care not to repeat the mistakes that made her feel uncomfortable on her previous online date.

As a last question you can ask what caused the break up in her last relationship. If she puts all the blame on the other guy, you can conclude that she is the woman who shuns blame on others, disassociating herself totally from these blames. If she puts all the blame on herself, it is simply ridiculous that the other guy is blemish free. Surely you can sense some sincerity and truth in this answer. If you feel she is telling you the truth then proceed with the relationship but with a bit of caution.

Asking the right questions will give you an insight about the relationship. If you are pushy and hasty, you will drive the woman far beyond your reach. Stories of you being superman or ultraman is definitely out of order. The more you rush the woman to meet you, the more she will be scared and think of you as a desperate sex pervert.

Be absolutely honest about your appearance and job to cement a good relationship. There is nothing to gain by lying about your appearance or job.

You surely want the woman to accept you as you are and not as some touched up wretched monster of a mysterious lagoon; just sent the photo. Send pictures of yourself in a natural daily working environment goes a long way to really speak of you in a thousand words. A good live video shots of yourself would be more preferable if it is not going too far.

Put yourself in her place and see how you would react in the same circumstances; surely suggesting that you meet for dinner at a secluded place will project an act of drawing her into a sinister trap of maybe sexual overtures. When suggesting a place make it sound safe and comfortable; suggesting that you meet at a hotel suite is definitely out of order. Women are good at and can easily smell a rat.